Empathy/Caring

Show your contempt for the problem and your concern for the person.

Be sensitive to the plight of others. You have to know about the tragedies as well as the triumphs, the failures as well as the success.

How do you build a bridge between age 12 and age 40? By remembering.

One of the greatest gifts you can give to anyone is the gift of attention.

The more you care, the stronger you can be.

Don't operate on the heart with a hatchet.


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Quotes - FORGIVENESS

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"Bitterness and an unforgiving spirit can be likened to you taking poison and expecting that someone else would die from the effect. Forgiveness is about setting the prisoner in your heart free only to discover that all along, you had been the real prisoner." -- Tope Popoola

"To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness." -- Robert Muller

"One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to forgive everybody everything every night before you go to bed." -- Bernard Baruch


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How To Write A Book

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By : Brian Tracy

1. Start with a message, idea, story that you really want to share with other people.

2. You must be an expert on your subject. You must know 10 words for every word you write. If you write on success, you must already be successful. If you write on money, you must already be rich. If you write on relationships, you must already be happily married.

3. Define your target market, exactly who are you writing this book for?
4. Make sure that your market is large enough, containing 100,000 to 1,000,000 potential book buyers.

5. Buy, read, and find out everything you can about other authors, books or articles dealing with the same subject. Make sure your material is different and better in at least three ways.

6. Gather all the information that you will need to write your book. Do your research and homework before you start to write?

7. Organize your material into seven, ten, twelve or twenty-one chapters, each following in a logical order, from beginning to end.

8. Write out every key point in each chapter on a legal sized writing pad.

9. Organize your points from #1 through to the closing part of the chapter. Do this for every chapter until you have a separate “down dump” of all the key ideas.

10. Begin with Chapter 1 and dictate the book in the order of material you have chosen.

11. Once you have dictated the entire book, have a typist type it out and give it back to you by email or disc for your computer. 12. Set up a work schedule with blocks of time of two, three or four hours. Discipline yourself to sit at the keyboard and edit during
this time.

13. Edit the entire book from front to back the first time. Correct the grammar and typing errors. Create the necessary paragraphs. This is the longest, hardest job of editing in the whole book.

14. Write an Introduction, a Preface and Acknowledgements if necessary.

15. In your second edit, break up the text with a heading every 2, 3, 4 paragraphs. Make it “bite-sized” and easy to read.

16. In your third edit, place a quote at the beginning of each chapter. Create three, five or seven action steps at the end of each chapter if it is a self-help or educational book.

17. In your fourth edit, which will take much less time, polish the sentences, delete unnecessary material, make final corrections.

18. In your fifth and final edit, completely reread the entire book from cover to cover. This takes the least amount of time of all.

19. The entire process above requires 50-100 hours of work, once you have gathered all your material.

20. Always play gentle classical music in the background. Best of all, get headphones and listen to classical music while you work. Music makes you more alert, creative and fluent.


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"Fast is fine, but accuracy is everything." -- Wyatt Earp

Chris' Widener Commentary: We live in a very fast paced world. Everything is needed NOW. I suppose there is a market for fast, and there will be some who are rewarded handsomely for it, but most success stories revolve around quality rather than speed. Someone may be doing it faster, but the successful do it better. The first go around may go to the fast, but when people realize there is lesser quality there, they will look for, and stay with, the better quality from then on. I remember early on in my career when I was building an organization I had started, and an old friend sent me a card that said only these words, "Remember, you are growing an oak tree, not a squash." Good words for me. Good words for all of us.

Action Point: Is there something you have been pushing to get done at the expense of the quality? Take sometime today to slow down, go over it again, improve the quality and readjust your schedule. Build something strong that lasts, though it takes longer, not something you can build fast that dies out soon thereafter.


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Today Quotes

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"You were born to win, but to be a winner you must plan to win, prepare to win, and expect to win." – Zig Ziglar


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Seeds of Greatness

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Life is a magnificent fertile garden plot given you to till, to plant, to nurture and to reap from. What you grow in your garden is your choice. How you respond to the process along the way also is your choice.

Your garden will never be in a state of perfection. It will always be in transition.

With the end of each season is the anticipation of the next. No one season is the best, not even harvest. It has its special joys and frequent challenges, just as each of the other seasons.

To everything there is a season and place under heaven. There is a magnificent rhythm and cycle to life.

Seed to sprout. Sprout to bloom. Bloom to blossom. Blossom to fruit. Fruit to seed.

Success is a process. It cycles again and again. How you use the cycles to produce what benefits your life and the lives of others is up to you.
(These quotes were taken from Denis Waitley's The Seeds of Greatness Treasury)


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Leadership

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The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not a bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly. (Jim Rohn)


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Discipline yourself to do what you know you need to do to be the very best in your field. Perhaps the best definition of self discipline is this: "Self discipline is the ability to make yourself do what you should do when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not."It is easy to do something when you feel like it. It's when you don't feel like it and you force yourself to do it anyway that you move your life and career onto the fast track.What decisions do you need to make today in order to start moving toward the top of your field? Whatever it is, either to get in or get out, make a decision today and then get started. This single act alone can change the whole direction of your life.
By: Brian Tracy


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Feeling angry or upset?

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When you begin to feel angry or upset, acknowledge the fact that you own your emotions. When you reprimand someone or express your unhappiness, do it privately and try to do so after the urge to fight or defend has subsided. The best way to get your feelings across is when you can speak in a normal voice, without all the warlike body language. Do speak your mind, but criticize the behavior without attacking the other person. When you speak about your anger or dissatisfaction, say, "I feel angry when I see that happening," instead of saying, "You make me angry when you do that." Only you can make you angry, by your reactions to events. When you are upset, go for a walk, or exercise, to release the sudden build-up of adrenaline in your system. And remember, there is no such thing as winning an argument. There is only winning an agreement. Don't engage in "all or nothing" management. If things don't work out exactly the way you had planned them, salvage a good situation. Be willing to compromise on a solution, but never compromise your integrity!
Take responsibility for your emotions this week.
by Denis Waitley


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